Be What You Want!

So, you’ve read the blogs and the do’s and don’ts of dating, outlined the guy you want and are ready to jump in the dating game. Ready, set, be what you want!!!  Wondering what I mean here, huh? Well, exactly what it says; “be what you want,” even if it is only for a little while.  

When you outline the kind of guy you want, you want to present yourself in a way that will attract this type of guy to you. I know they say opposites attract, but really now, who is attracted to someone so different from themselves they can’t even get to the first impression? Think about it; when you meet someone, the high point of the conversation comes when you get to that “Really?! ME TOO!” moment. It’s so exciting to find a total stranger actually likes that weird thing that you do because they do it too!

Now, you want a guy that’s confident, not overbearing, can start a conversation, and is presentable in familial situations. You are less likely to get this guy if you are arrogant, overbearing, and dress like a playboy bunny. Hence, if you want a {insert your description here} kind of guy, you will need to exhibit some of these same characteristics.  Mind you, opposites still do attract, but, unless you have a crazy physical chemistry with a magnetic animal attraction, you’re going to have to put in a little work in getting that desired guy.

If you’re looking for a specific guy, this is what you want to portray when you put yourself out there.  Don’t be a wallflower looking for the life of the party; more than likely, he’s going to be paying attention to the circle around him, not the person in the shadows hungrily watching him (can you say creepy?) When I say be what you want, I don’t mean for you to change the person you are, or pretend to be something you’re not, but step outside of your comfort zone; put in a little work to get what you want.  If you’re normally a shy person, take that chance to initiate a conversation, or step in the circle and smile along with the guy that’s the life of the party; it’s not changing who you are, it’s using social skills.

In the words of Lyfe Jennings, “don’t be a nickel out here looking for a dime!” I know opposites attracts, but remember similarities do too; if you look trashy, you might get some great attention from a great guy who might read “easy” written across your  forehead, but if you’re looking for something solid to build on, the trashy guy is going to be looking at you for that. And think about it, even a great guy is going to come across and present himself as “trashy” if he thinks that’s what you’re putting out.  Be confident, know your worth, and express this in the social skills you’re presenting so that you are approached by a confident guy who will respect you and what you stand for.